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My Cousin Let Her Friends Rummage Through My Bedroom, So I Kicked Them All Out
Family drama is bound to happen at some point in everyone's life. Family is tough, and when people get together things can always go wrong. Even in families, boundaries are important, and crossing someone's stern boundaries is a disrespectful thing to do. When it's family, things can be even more tense.
The 25-year-old woman lives alone in a small one-bedroom apartment, where her 19-year-old cousin is temporarily staying while completing an internship nearby. The cousin had friends over one night, and crossed some boundaries that ended in the woman becoming pretty upset.
Was what she did an overreaction? Or was she warranted to react the way she did to her boundaries being crossed by her own cousin?
AITA for kicking my cousin's friends out after they went through my stuff?
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'm 25, living alone in a small one bedroom apartment. My cousin (19F) is staying with me for the time being while she does an internship
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nearby. She's been great, helps with groceries, cleans up after herself, no complaints.
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Last week she asked if she could have two friends over for a sleepover. I said sure, because it didn’t seem
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like a big deal to me. I got home around 11:30 that night, later than expected. I walked in and heard giggling coming
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from my bedroom. I opened the door and found my cousin and her two friends in my room. One was wearing my
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jacket. Another had my makeup spread out on my bed, trying on lipstick. My closet door was open, and a couple
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of my dresses were thrown over a chair. My cousin was sitting on my floor, laughing.
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I lost it. I told them to get out. I called my aunt, my cousin's mom, and told her what happened. She said she'd come pick up
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my cousin. The friends left on their own, looking embarrassed. My cousin was furious. She said I was overreacting, that it
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was just clothes and makeup, and that I embarrassed her in front of her friends. She said I ruined her night.
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I told her she crossed her boundaries and that going through my personal stuff without asking is not okay by me.
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She said I was being dramatic and that she'd pay me back if anything was damaged. I told her it's not about the money. It's about respect.
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She's barely spoken to me since. My aunt thinks I overreacted too, said I could have just talked to her instead of kicking them out.
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I don't think I was wrong. But now I'm wondering if I should have handled it differently. AITA?
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ignore their drama. cousin showed no respect.
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NTA, she violated respectful boundaries
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NTA in any way, shape or form. She way overstepped and needs to live elsewhere. change your locks so she can't get back in.
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NTA Even if she was paying rent, a roommate has no right to be going thru your stuff.
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Nta. I could see this from a 13yo, not 19.
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