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Pregnant ER Nurse Refuses to Be Treated Like a Dog After Doctor Snaps His Fingers at Her
Workplace respect should go both ways, regardless of someone's position or job title. But one pregnant ER nurse found herself dealing with a doctor who seemed to think snapping his fingers and giving orders was an acceptable way to treat a colleague.
While helping a patient before a procedure, she was asked to do something by a doctor from another unit. When she did not do this fast enough, according to the doctor, the doctor snapped at her, literally. The action was offensive to the nurse, and she responded in a tone the doctor did not appreciate.
Now, this nurse is wondering if she reacted in the right way, especially after a coworker said she should have ignored the doctor's behaviour all together.
I (26F) am an ER nurse and am 32 weeks pregnant currently. Today I was floating around the ER and just helping everyone in general.
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I have never had an issue with a coworker or ER provider before, and I generally get along pretty well either way everyone.
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Today we had a patient who was severely autistic and nonverbal and needed a Foley catheter replaced.
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Guardian told us he has to be medicated with Ativan beforehand and it takes around 5-6 people to hold him down for it as he’s a strong guy.
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She mentioned the patient seemed to like me as he actually let me take vital signs on him calmly (EMS couldn’t get any due to being combative) and kept trying to show
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me things on his iPad and reach out to hold my hand and guardian even stated that was unusual for him and he seemed calm with me.
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C asked me for help administering IM Ativan before the procedure. I don’t restrain or lift people anymore
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as I am not risking getting kicked or punched while heavily pregnant. But they said they would restrain and all I had to do was give the shot as she felt he’d
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be calmer with me since he liked me. They had tried to replace his catheter earlier ( no clue if they gave anything then as I wasn’t there for it)
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and they couldn’t do it and had to call urology down for help as the catheter seemed stuck.
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Since I was floating, I called another unit and asked them to set me some aside so we could give the IM Ativan for the
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second attempt and I could run upstairs to grab the catheter while the Ativan kicked in.
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So it was me, C, ER doc and guardian at bedside, I was talking to the patient the whole time and he actually didn’t even have to be restrained for me to give
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the shot and didn’t seem to react much when I gave it as he was still trying to show me his iPad. I walked out of the room to then immediately go upstairs to grab the catheter.
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The urologist happened to be walking in at that same time and stated,” where is the catheter?”. I informed him I was on my way to grab it and it
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would only be about 2 minutes for me to be back. He then said,” well I needed this 2 minutes ago”. I said,” I was in the room administering the
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I turned towards the door when he snapped his fingers at me and said,” then go fetch, go run”. I literally froze and turned towards look at him and said,” excuse me?”
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He then once again snapped his fingers at me and said,” go, go running” in a rude tone. I almost lost my s.
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I said,” we’re not doing this ( snapped my fingers), I’m not a dog to be fetching your things.
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He stood there frozen and didn’t say anything and I walked away. When I came back, he was in the room snapping at people, including the ER doctor. When I walked in
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I calmly placed the catheters on the table and walked out. My coworker and ER doctor stated that he was grumbling under his breath the whole time
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My ER director asked me what happened later and was shocked he actually snapped his fingers at me and said she’d bring it up as it was highly disrespectful. One of my
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One of my coworkers told me I could’ve just kept quiet and ignored him and I’m wondering if I was wrong and should’ve handled it differently. The ER doctor
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didn’t actually say anything but he first bumped me silently when he came out the room. So AITAH?
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NTA but probably the first person to ever try to put this man in his place, good for you
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Actually, you needed to report his behavior to HR immediately. That's absolutely not a reasonable work environment.
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