This Man Doesn't Think His Girlfriend Should Get A Tattoo... Is He In The Wrong?
These days, many people have tattoos. It's pretty common to see someone with not only one but multiple tattoos. Some people choose to only have a few, and some people like to go big. It's all personal preference in what someone wants to do with their bodies. With that being said, tattoos can make a big difference in a person's appearance. It can change the way they look forever. Does this mean that a tattooed person's significant other should have a say in what they get done? Everyone is going to have opinions, but tattoos can be pretty meaningful to a person. They can be a part of their identity.
This man ran into a problem when his girlfriend expressed wanting a new, big tattoo. Upon telling her he did not like the idea, things got heated. Now, this couple is in a situation where one wants something, but it may be at the expense of their relationship. Is this poster wrong for not wanting his girlfriend to do something she wants to do, or does this issue go deeper than tattoos? Keep reading to see the whole story and what other users thought.
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(Source: Reddit)
AITA for disagreeing with my girlfriend getting more tattoos? Me (31m) and my girlfriend (30f) have been together for 2 years. We love each other deeply and both believe that we are soulmates. I try my best to be supportive of everything that she does and all of her interests. My girlfriend had half a sleeve of tattoos when we started dating, I don't mind tattoos but feel like there's a limit where I find them to be a bit too much. She doesn't have that many and i love the ones that she has now.
Tattoos are a big interest of hers and over the course of our relationship she has gotten another tattoo which I also supported and didn't mind, I was just happy that she liked it.
Since then she has stated that she's very interested in getting one across her chest. I feel that such a tattoo would be a big change in appearance and I don't think it would look. I always respond that I'm not sure about such a tattoo. I understand that it's her body and that I have no say in what she does to it.
Today she comes up to me brimming with excitement stating that she's getting the tattoo that she's been talking about and asks me what I think about it. I tell her that it's her body and she can do whatever she likes, but I think that I prefer the amount of tattoos she has currently and that I don't think I would like the tattoo.
I could tell that she was crushed with what i had to say with her emotions slowly changing from sadness to anger directed at me. She asked me how i would feel if she told me to stop enjoying one of my interests. I tell her that I love her more than anything in the world and I very much support her decision to do whatever she wants with her body, but that I think she would look better without it and that she has every right to disregard my opinion.
Now she's p____ at me, ignoring and stonewalling me, telling me that she is very sad over what I said and that she wants to be left alone while glaring at me with cold eyes. I feel horrible for what I said. She won't even respond to me when I tell her that I love her and I don't know what to do.